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Postby Grummy » 20 Sep 2012, 05:01

I've been thinking a while now that we're a good small group here, we all get on well, and any occasional spats are just that, not a personal thing, just disagreements on a topic and heated discussion. So, I think it's fair to say we're all varying degrees of online buddies, I don't think any of us have actually met in RL or anything, but I'm sure if we did, we'd all have a few beers and a laugh.

But it struck me really that I don't really know anything about any of you. Little bits here and there, I know Rossi and Shanster have kids, and I know a couple of others of you do as well, but I can't remember who. I know Ruggy is a musician of some sort, I think he's a cellist, but I can't swear to that. The most sure I can be of anything is that ginger ninja is a pretty decent budding journo, and Cunster does lots of adding up. I can be fairly certain that Bezza had a traumatic childhood involving a shady man with close cropped black beard, but he may also have been a wrestling fan and had a crush on Steve Blackman, so I can't be sure.

The point is, I know you guys, but I don't 'know' you guys really, so I just thought I'd throw this out there as a ask and tell sort of thing. If you feel up to it, tell us all what you do or what you like apart from gaming, movies and music, if there's anything you want to know, ask away. I'd say that the only 'rules' necessary is that if someone says they're not comfortable relaying any particular information, that we accept it respectfully and move on, and that we treat each other with courtesy and respect. If someone says they do or like something we feel strongly about one way or another, we approach it calmly, not getting bent out of shape over it. Pretty obvious things really, but always good to get it out there so we all know where we stand.

So feel free to divulge any information you want to about yourselves, ask questions etc. And if this thread doesn't take off over the next couple of weeks it's no big deal, i'll just ask Rossums to dump it instead.

I'll go first.

Sid, Bezza, what do you guys do for a living?
Sam, am I right in thinking you are a student? If so, what are you studying?
Ruggy, are you in fact a cellist?
Shanster, any plans to move back to Oz again any time soon? Are you there again already? Or ar you stuck over here long term now?
How many of you actually do have kids? Expecting?
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby Decent_Jam » 20 Sep 2012, 06:59

Your use of nicknames for everyone as terms of affection here speaks volumes about the quality of the community which we are all a part of, small perhaps, but a friendly, reasonable bunch of people who can have opposing opinions on a game and different tastes without it turning into a digital slagging match.

Happy to answer any questions, but as you can tell from my signature, I'm not exactly keeping my real life identity particularly secret, so a Google search may suffice - depending on how interested you are!
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby FishyGinger » 20 Sep 2012, 09:21

Well I wouldn't mind knowing who or what a Grumftheld is....sounds like Beowulfs aunt.

I'm happy to share any of my experiences, except for what happened in that swimming pool all those years ago. I've never been swimming since :P

Oh, and I'm childless. Bit young for me I thinks, only 26. Been seeing my lady for not that long either (4 months), I hold back getting someone pregnant for the fifth date.
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby CunningSmile » 20 Sep 2012, 10:04

I've often described many of you as mates to "real" friends and my Girlfriend has got used to me dropping your names (or at least your log ons) into conversation, although I'm lousy with names and if we ever do meet up you'll still get referred to as Grummy, Jam etc. I'll be the one wearing a Special T-shirt with CunningSmile on the front and OXM Forum Crew on the back :lol:

As Grummy aludes to, and most of you know, I'm an accountant but please don't hold that against me I also have a personality. It actually took a long time getting here with stop offs as a cinema usher, security guard, retail manager, banker and even mooring the Isle of Wight ferry along the way. Pity I'm an awful writer because my CV looks like the bio at the front of a novel.

I'm in a long term relationship, but we get over our mutual commitment issues by living seperately and only ever referring to it as being "More than six months" (we got together when we were 30, we're 35 now. You can do the maths because it scares me) and we have so much in common it's often frightening. No plans for kids as we are both too bad with money, too selfish and my GF has serious mental problems that pregnancy hormones would not be good for.

And I'm willing to answer any other questions except for ones relating to PIN numbers and internet security.
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby Clanger67 » 20 Sep 2012, 10:27

I am currently out of work.I trained to be an electrician when i first left school and got out of that after i had served my time and qualified.Went for a complete change after that and was a postie for ten years,had a house and was in a long term relationship with a woman i used to work with.I had to pack all that in when my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer when i was 28-9 and given only three months to live.She died when i was thirty,so since have had on/off relationships and jobs which is mostly my own fault.Been sorting things out past couple of years though so things are on the up,i hope.No kids at the min. but would like some.
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby FishyGinger » 20 Sep 2012, 11:07

Accountants...oh god. My brother is one and he's verging on psychotic.

Anywho, started gaming when I was young as an alternative to tv, was always fairly active and our school was quite sporty so that helped a lot. Went off to university to do mechanical engineering (i'm not clever so don't think I am.) where I met my then lovely lady. Never returned home after uni but took part time jobs to live where I got a job as a manager for a pneumatics firm. My lady then started having drinks related issues which was fairly depressing as it lead to major seizures and an incident on the motorway when I saw her first exorcist style seizure scared me almost to death. But she slept a lot when drunk so I got a lot more into gaming to pass the time. Thank god she got help but it ended our relationship after 5 years. So after a short time of self pity I started going to the gym, got a new job down south and met a new lovely lady. I moved from compressors to pumps, apparently I'm an applications engineer. No idea what it means but hey ho I do something or other.

Free time I see my lady, play squash, gym, game and films in that order and enjoying life. I also have a gcse in latin and I'm not ashamed of it so mock all you like. Funny thing is I remember none of it.

Also like animals but don't have any myself, generally don't care much about most peoples thoughts on me (I'm ginger, after 10 years of mild persecution I doubt anyone would care) and have a fond liking for bakewell tarts.
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby schwepterbrowser » 20 Sep 2012, 14:05

Grummy wrote:Sam, am I right in thinking you are a student? If so, what are you studying?


You are indeed. I’m doing a TV production course, mostly practical based in a professional TV studio.

Did GCSEs & A-levels in Film & Media Studies, English Language and Digital Art at a Media & Arts College and was involved in producing feature films for local Odeon Cinema release with the college’s in-house production company. After leaving college I wanted to take a break from education, so began job hunting. Whilst in the process of looking for a job I got incredibly lucky and met a friend’s brother-in-law at a party, he was a producer at Channel 4 on Big Brother. I got in touch with him and was able to shadow him and do some work on the show, which was awesome! Bob left (which meant I left with him) to try and make the jump to film, but was unsuccessful.

During that period I had an ad-hoc job where I’d be sent to buy alcohol from certain establishments and if my ID wasn’t requested (I was 18, but looked younger) I had to issue a warning to the manager. If they’d already been warned I had to keep my identity a secret and inform my employer, who’d potentially revoke their licence.

Bob went back into TV and worked on Dick & Dom in the Bungalow on CBBC, so I joined him again. That was only on a temporary contract which terminated after the series ended. I got in touch with my college to see if they had any projects going there and worked on editing a documentary filmed at the college’s partner school in Africa with Joe (a former Top Gear editor).

After that opportunities dried up and I didn’t really know what to do with myself, so put in for the course I’m on. Had to wait a year to start, in which I worked in a gourmet sandwich shop, which had some REALLY nice stuff in addition to some f**ked up stuff (white floured bap, buttered with sliced banana and sugar, anyone?). They also catered, so I did a few events and just by chance my mate’s granddad’s funeral... After I’m finished with this course I’m moving on to do a year in film production, but I’m mostly doing that for the guest lecturers – they’ve had Danny Boyle and some other big names in the past!

I'm single, never really had a long term relationship as I'm yet to find anybody I want to get serious with.

Am I right in thinking you run a shop, Grum? Think I read that somewhere?

*Edit: Thought I'd add I'm a bit of an animal lover. Always had pets growing up (dogs, cats, chickens, a hamster, fish) and currently have two Basset Hounds called Tucker and Chester.
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby Bezza89 » 20 Sep 2012, 15:08

Well, I neither had a traumatic experience with a deep voiced, bearded man or a fan of wrestling. I also hope no one takes anything I say about stuff personally, I just get passionate about what I'm writing and tend to lose track of what I'm writing and it comes across snarky sometimes.

Anyway - to answer your question, I work for the American Stamp Dealers Association. Ahem. I got 'promoted' from my position on tuesday, the job interview started off 'Do you want this job?' so make of that what you will, and hence me quoting previously.

I am however a graduate of Forensic Science too - I am very interested by it, I also love Sherlock Holmes and his forensic habits. I can bore people with it though, as I have many fascinating anecdotes, like the time I buried a body, or didn't find the corpse behind the couch, the less exciting looking at handwriting for a year anecdote, how many litres of water are needed to get rid of 1ml of blood etc. Lots of case studies too, in fact - if anyone knows how to sort out a disc read error on my old harddrive - I have lots of case studies I used to scare people with.

I've no kids or anything, as long as I persuade a female into liking me I'd love to have some one day.
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby msbhvn » 20 Sep 2012, 17:01

I mentioned in the introduction thread that I've been suffering with anxiety and depression since my teens, so I hope you'll understand that I'm a bit reluctant to post a lot of personal information, at least all at once. As for meeting in real life, I found out the other week when we played Street Fighter that Mav lives only a few miles away from me.

I live with and care for my mother, who has many serious health issues, and as you can imagine, that puts a serious crimp in my social life. In fact, for the most part this forum is my social life.

My anxiety has bordered on agoraphobia in the past, and I still have trouble coping in large crowds, so going to college was a struggle. I did get some secretarial qualifications, including touch typing, which I find useful.

I'm currently having some counselling to help me reduce my anxiety, which is going very well.

I don't sleep very well, anxiety and caffeine are a bad mix, but I admit that I'm a Coke (Zero) addict. :lol:
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby comabob » 20 Sep 2012, 17:29

WHat a charming yet slightly suss thread topic Grumster...

I am hoping to get back to Australia permanently at some point in the near future but moneys a bit tight these days since starting my new job with Yell (word of advice - dont ever advertise with yell) Im based in Reading at the moment though...

Moved to UK in 06 with my english girlfriend id met in Sydney (shes now my wife) and have done pretty much any and every job you can name in that time (everything from serving food at Reading Uni to running the post room for a pensions firm to debt collection to telesales) - ive studied film in the past and have dabbled in short film making and screenwriting.

Not sure what else i can say really - i have a horrible diet, cant seem to put on weight, have chronic vision problems in my left eye, HATE reality TV/pop music/"celebrity" culture/mushrooms and dont know what "dubstep" is. (seriously just sounds like noise to me) , i havent bought a CD since high school, rarely drink these days and dont care for sports. Oh and ive never bothered getting a drivers licence and honestly dont care to get one anytime soon.

I re-read this after reading a few other posts and ive managed to sound like a negative nancy - so heres the positive -

Been married for 4 years to my wife Mel (34) and my son Jackson is almost 18months (i turn 30 this year). Love my gaming (obviously), love my movies, love my heavy metal an love my family. Im not career minded these days after finding myself dismayed years ago at the state of the australian film industry and my potential career writing screenplays and tend to consider a job as a way of paying the rent more than anything (which is slightly troubling when your approaching 30)

Not sure what else to say without this becoming an awkward Dr Phil episode
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby Decent_Jam » 20 Sep 2012, 19:16

FishyGinger wrote:I also have a gcse in latin and I'm not ashamed of it so mock all you like. Funny thing is I remember none of it.


You'll get no mockery from me since I not only have GCSE Latin, but also A Level Latin...geek-tacular...

Really interesting to hear everyone's stories by the way, clearly we challenge the 'gamers' stereotype pretty well (apart from being almost all male of course).
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby SidTheSloth » 20 Sep 2012, 19:34

Isn't Ed quite schooled up in latin i seem to recall?
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby KernowDevil23 » 20 Sep 2012, 23:08

Thread of the year award goes to............Grumster!!!

Well I've never really thought about "bearing all" on the internet before now (apart from sending in some rather dis-tasteful pictures to "Escort" magazine in the hope of getting a cheque for £250.00.......) but Grummy has laid it all down, so here it goes!

My real name is Gareth (non-Welsh BTW!) and I live here in glorious Cornwall with my wife and two beautiful children. I've been a moderator on OXM for quite a few years now (under the previous regime as DrVRossi46) and apart from the odd dickhead user, it's been an absolute pleasure!

I'm 30 (nearly 31) years old and have been married for nearly eleven years (yeah, yeah.....I know!.....less for a life sentence etc.....!) and I have a son aged 9 (Luca) and a daughter aged 2 (Nyah). My children are quite literally what I am on earth for, they are what I go to work for and I would do anything for them (apart from give up my games consoles....).

Outside of work, games and family time, I love going out on our boat to fish as well as going for blast's on my motorcycle. Without wishing to go on and on to the point where you all click on something else to get you to sleep, I also enjoy watching and playing football.

There, I think that's all for now! :)
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby STE MO » 20 Sep 2012, 23:46

What an eclectic bunch we have here, I know I don't really get involved that much on here a few posts here and there but I really don't have that much time, I'll explain.

My name is Steve and I'm 33, married with 3 great kids, 2 boys and a girl. Left school around 1995 and went to college for 7 months, done some finance course. I absolutely hated the tutor so dropped out and got a job working for the then Marconi making high powered valves for sat coms and military applications. Worked there for around 2 years, even signed the official secrets act, can't remember why something to do with frequency's.

Left Marconi in 1998 and joined KeyMed which is now Olympus and made and repaired industrial borescopes (aircraft engineers use them to check for cracks in the rotors) and repaired medical endoscopes. It was a great job and the people are some of the best I've ever known. I once went to Hamburg on business and forgot my passport only realising when I got to Heathrow, my boss was not happy :lol: .

Met the wife in Ibiza some 9 years ago and have been married for 6 years. She suffers from a personality disorder, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome and some sort of kidney failure but to name a few, so I'm her carer, poor girl. So my time is taken up with hospital trips and school runs and chemist pick ups. Oh and I've just started a level 3 multimedia course, as if my time isn't precious enough lol.

I'm originally from Essex but moved to the north east 3 1/2 years ago, best thing I ever done. I love gaming, cooking and spoiling my kids, especially my little girl, she got me wrapped around her little finger already and she's only 2. Wow didn't think that I could write so much. Think thats about it. Oh we have a dog even though I hate animals, things you do for kids and a sick wife just to keep the peace.

Edit: I also have the best in laws ever. Mother and father in law are one in a million. Better then my own parents. Lol
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Re: Share your life stories

Postby FishyGinger » 21 Sep 2012, 09:42

Decent_Jam wrote:
You'll get no mockery from me since I not only have GCSE Latin, but also A Level Latin...geek-tacular...

Really interesting to hear everyone's stories by the way, clearly we challenge the 'gamers' stereotype pretty well (apart from being almost all male of course).


Ah, see I thought I'd better keep my geek levels down, what with doing maths, physics and electronics for A level, latin could have killed me. How I've ever slept with a woman I don't know but hey ho must be my charming personality. And my giant, man sized, satisfying dvd collection.

Genuinely heartening to hear some of you have "troubled" other halves. I don't mean that negatively but when my ex was drinking (ocd and anxiety problems lead to needing a crutch of sorts, it was almost inevitable really) I had never felt so alone. Living 200 odd miles from home with someone I loved but was slowly killing themselves was hard but thankfully came through it and she seems better. Gaming helped take my mind off things.

And msbvhn, leave off the caffeine, really isn't good for you. Go for a run before bed so you're exhausted, might help take you mind off things. I went to group counselling after my split (al-anon, quite useful if anyone needs it) but found exercising helped so much more keeping my mind busy.
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